Making meaningful small talk on a first date can get tricky and awkward.
Relationship experts told Business Insider their favorite questions to ask on a first date.
Many of them stressed that to have the conversation flow organically, you should be present in the moment by asking good follow-up questions.
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Making small talk can be awkward — especially on a first date.
Simply asking “So, what do you do?” isn’t going to lead to the meaningful conversations you want to have on a first date to ensure there’ll be another one.
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To help break the ice with a stranger on a first date, Business Insider asked seven relationship experts from across the country to reveal their favorite questions to ask on a first date.
While many of them had a few pre-determined questions at hand, they said the most important thing to keep in mind is just to be a good listener, and to be yourself.
“Meaningful small talk is virtually anything that helps you connect with the other person in a genuine way,” Shira Teichman, a dating coach and cofounder of the dating app Forj, told Business Insider. “Ask what feels natural in the moment, without calculating what you think you’re supposed to say.”
For those who need a little extra guidance, here are the best questions to ask on a first date, according to relationship experts:
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What do you think of the restaurant/bar/etc. we’re at?
“Be present in the moment,” says Claudia Duran, a relationship expert based in Miami, Florida. To get the conversation rolling, she recommends sharing your experience of the date as soon as it starts by asking about the vibe of the restaurant or bar. If you both notice something odd — like another couple on a date that doesn’t seem to be going well — go ahead and bring that up to establish a shared experience.
“[Being] present for the moment and present to sharing them together opens up the dialogue organically,” Duran adds.
If you met on a dating app, ask about what led you to accept their profile.
Right off the bat, you want to establish a common connection with your date, says Andrea Syrtash, dating expert and co-author of “It’s Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Rule of Dating Debunked.” Finding something you can both relate to will naturally lead itself into a good conversation.
While making plans with someone you met online can be awkward right off the gate, bringing up something you saw helps to minimize that discomfort.
“At the end of the day, why are you attracted to someone on an app? Because you’re swiping and you’re like, ‘Hey, I liked the way he looks,'” New York City-based relationship expert Rori Sassoon told Business Insider. “You know nothing about that person.”
What are your hobbies?
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