Melissa Petro is a freelance writer, wife, and mother living in New York City.
Instead of returning to full-time work after she had a baby, she persuaded her husband to pay her to handle all the childcare, housework, and other familial responsibilities.
She added up the hours she’d work each week and multiplied that by an hourly wage, subtracting this figure from what she owed the family budget.
Still needing a second job to make ends meet, Petro soon grew exhausted by all the responsibilities on her plate, especially as her son got older.
Later, her husband lost his job, compelling the couple to switch roles entirely.
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Before I became a mother, my husband and I had an equal partnership: We both worked full time — he as a consultant in digital media, me as a freelance writer — and contributed 50-50 to a family budget. We also did our best to split the household work equally.
Then I got pregnant and gave birth, and equality went out the window.
Mentally and physically exhausted, breastfeeding around the clock, and overwhelmed by the duties of managing our household, I didn’t think I had my former hustle in me. It was also a fact that, even though I was relatively successful at what I did, my yearly income as a freelance writer barely covered the cost of full-time childcare.
And so instead of returning to full-time work after maternity leave, I convinced my husband of an unorthodox arrangement: Rather than hiring a nanny or sending our 4-month-old off to daycare, I told him I’d handle the childcare, along with all the housework and other familial responsibilities. Instead of paying a team of professionals, I reasoned, we’d pay me.
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I added up the hours I’d work each week and multiplied that by an hourly wage. I then divided that number in half — after all, childcare was as much my expense as it was my husband’s — …read more
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