<p id=”par-1_56″>After <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/tag/jennifer-lopez/?swcfpc=1″>Jennifer Lopez</a> and <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/tag/ben-affleck/?swcfpc=1″>Ben Affleck</a> divorced, she is reportedly looking to date someone outside the entertainment industry. Lopez has had a number of high-profile relationships, and her divorces have all taken place in the public eye. As she looks to her future after spending some time alone, she reportedly wants to find a “regular Joe.”</p>
<h2 class=”wp-block-heading” id=”h-jennifer-lopez-hopes-to-date-a-regular-guy-following-her-divorce”>Jennifer Lopez hopes to date a regular guy following her divorce</h2>
<p id=”par-2_55″>Lopez and Affleck <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/ben-affleck-jennifer-lopez-finalizing-divorce-wonders-relationship-source-says.html/”>finalized their divorce</a> in early 2025. Since then, she has focused on spending time on her own. When she looks to a new relationship, though, she reportedly wants someone who “has nothing to do with Hollywood.” She has been involved with a number of men in the entertainment industry in the past.</p>
<p id=”par-3_57″>“Believe it or not, Jennifer says she wants a ‘regular Joe,’ a businessman or a blue-collar guy who’s secure in himself,” an insider told <a target=”_blank” href=”https://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/jennifer-lopez-wants-to-date-a-regular-joe-after-ben-affleck-split/” rel=”noreferrer noopener”>InTouch Weekly</a>. “A guy who is strong in his convictions, someone who will make her feel special, safe, and secure. She’s tired of being taken advantage of by men who want the spotlight.”</p>
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<p id=”par-4_17″>She is reportedly also looking for someone who will be “open to discuss <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/jennifer-lopez-wept-insecurity-night-filming-selena-claimed-ex-husband.html/”>his insecurities and hers</a>.”</p>
<h2 class=”wp-block-heading” id=”h-jennifer-lopez-once-said-she-wasn-t-looking-to-date-anyone-after-her-marriage-ended”>Jennifer Lopez once said she wasn’t looking to date anyone after her marriage ended</h2>
<p id=”par-5_26″>For a long time after her divorce, Lopez <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/jennifer-lopez-all-kim-kardashian-helping-date-ben-affleck-source-says.html/”>didn’t want to date anyone</a>, even someone far outside the public eye. She wanted to spend time alone.</p>
<p id=”par-6_53″>“You have to be good on your own,” she told Nikki Glaser for <a target=”_blank” href=”https://www.interviewmagazine.com/film/jennifer-lopez-tells-nikki-glaser-how-a-turbulent-summer-changed-her” rel=”noreferrer noopener”>Interview Magazine</a>. “I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And then, this summer, I had to be like, ‘I need to go off and be on my own. I want to prove to myself that I can do that.’”</p>
<p id=”par-7_20″>She said it was “lonely, unfamiliar, scary,” but she wanted to be able to feel fulfilled without a romantic partner.</p>
<p id=”par-8_53″>“Being in a relationship doesn’t define me,” she said, adding, “I can’t be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself. I used to say I’m a happy person, but was still looking for something for somebody else to fill, and it’s just like, ‘No, I’m actually good.’”</p>
<h2 class=”wp-block-heading” id=”h-she-wants-to-find-someone-who-loves-her-for-her-flaws”>She wants to find someone who loves her for her flaws</h2>
<p id=”par-9_22″>Lopez said that in her time alone, she focused on loving herself. She hopes to find someone who loves all of her.</p>
<p id=”par-10_50″>“That, to me, is a scary thing too, or a confusing thing, because it’s like, ‘Oh, you couldn’t love me if I have flaws. I have to be perfect to be loved.’ That’s not true!” she said. “Somebody who truly loves you will help you heal those parts of yourself.”</p>
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<p id=”par-11_13″>She feels a good relationship will allow her to be herself and grow.</p>
<p id=”par-12_76″>“That’s what I’ve learned about love, that it is a secure thing,” she said. “You make me feel safe, and when I fall short of the glory, you understand me and you help me to grow to be better, because you have your boundaries and I have my boundaries. And I go, ‘Here’s where you’re falling short for me and here’s where I’m falling short for you.’ And so, we get better at those things together.”</p>