We need to talk about the uncomfortable truth about female on-screen kisses

Kim Kardashian and Emma Roberts shared a steamy kiss in a recent episode of American Horror Story (Picture: FX / BACKGRID)

Emma Roberts and Kim Kardashian recently made headlines for sharing a passionate onscreen kiss in a recent episode of American Horror Story

The moment is meant as a shocking power play between the two stars’ characters. Robert’s character wins an Oscar while going into labour, and Kardashian, who plays her publicist, kisses her before she goes up to accept the award. 

It joins a long list of on-screen girl-on-girl kisses that are intended to be anything from surprising and sexy to menacing and edgy – but almost never romantic. 

While more and more female kisses and even sex scenes have been featured in movies and TV shows over recent years – a phenomenon that’s been haled as a representational victory for the LGBTQ+ community – it’s time we recognize some glaring problems with the way our culture portrays female physical intimacy. 

It’s rare that two women kiss on screen in a moment of genuine connection, and even rarer that there isn’t a sense of male fetishization imbued. When movies or TV is made that center romantic and sexual relationships between women, they’re all about sex, without bothering with much character development, romance, or even plot.

Even worse, on screen female kisses are often between straight women and intended for the enjoyment of men or to signal a sort of rebelliousness.

Using Kardashian and Robert’s kiss as an example, their characters are not portrayed as queer or romantically interested in each other, which would be fine had the kiss served some other purpose in the plot. Instead, it seems to exist purely for a moment of shock and titillation within the world of the show. 

Britney Spears and Madonna’s kiss at the 2003 MTV Video Music awards caused shock and controversy (Picture: Kevin Kane/WireImage)

The moment closely mirrors other famous real-life female kisses, like when Madonna kissed Britney Spears at the 2003 MTV Video Music Awards, shocking the world and causing a moral panic, or when Sandra Bullock and Scarlett Johansson kissed in 2010 at the MTV Movie Awards. 

Neither of these instances can realistically be read as genuine moments of affection but instead as performative attention grabs between straight women meant to cause a stir and indicate a kind of edginess.  

It made international headlines when Scarlett Johansson and Sandra Bullock kissed onstage at the 2010 MTV Movie Awards (Picture: FilmMagic)

This is true of famous fictional examples as well, like the much-discussed kiss between Megan Fox and Amanda Seyfried in Jennifer’s Body.

The scene, in which Fox’s character seduces Seyfrieds, is intended as a threat and a moment of possessiveness more than anything tender or emotionally expressive. While it’s an affective moment in the film, it’s certainly not representational of healthy gay intimacy. 

Another famous example is the kiss between Sarah Michelle Gellar and Selma Blair in the 1999 teen drama Cruel Intentions. Gellar’s character bullies and belittles Blair’s character throughout the film before unexpectedly kissing her in a twisted moment. 

Megan Fox and Amanda Seyfried’s kiss in Jennifer’s Body has become iconic (Picture: Fox Atomic)

The scene won the Best Kiss gong at the MTV Movie Awards in 2000 and was widely discussed at the time of the movie’s release. 

Blair later reflected on the scene, saying: ‘I think the reason the kiss has resonated with people so long is not just for the initial shock value but because it was a catalyst for so many young people to help them realise certain aspects of their sexuality and help make people comfortable to be who they really are.’ 

Selma Blair and Sarah Michelle Gellar’s kiss in Cruel Intentions won best kiss at the MTV Movie Awards in 2000 (Picture: Sony Pictures)

While Blair likely isn’t wrong that a lot of young people were inspired by the famous moment, one has to wonder what young gay women learn when the only representation available to them is moments as dark or intentionally shocking as the kiss in Cruel Intentions. 

While straight people have a plethora of examples of intimacy that’s shared lovingly between two people in private, examples of kisses between two women are almost always portrayed as sinister, shocking, performative, or for the purpose of gaining male attention. 

So before people continue to celebrate Kardashian and Robert’s onscreen kiss as a win for LGBTQ+ representation, it’s worth considering whether women-loving women are being forced to accept the bare minimum.

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